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Below are a couple books that I have found useful and interesting.
For a full list of recommended reading, visit my Bookshelf Page.
Clicking on the images will take you to the Amazon product page.
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This book did so much more just add words to my existing knowledge and experience, as I had expected. This book taught me things. This book changed the way that I think about relationships. All relationships, not just poly. I have spent the last two days lost in thought, re-evaluating a lot of my own choices and beliefs. And that’s good. That’s what a great book like this should do.
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Combines Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training With Miss Abernathy in one deluxe volume.
Replete with updated resources and references, Erotic Slavehood will take its place among the basic BDSM reference manuals.
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Respected columnist and scene leader Rinella has carefully explored how BDSM relationships fit into real people's lives.
From that research, and his own two decades as an active leatherman, he has assembled this sensible, readable manual about how kinky relationships really work.
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Here are some quick answers from to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions have been paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details. (more…)
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Ok, yes, I know. The release of the Fifty Shades of Grey trailer and the coming release of the film in February means that an even wider audience is going to be exposed to the incredibly inadequate portrayal of BDSM in that story.
And yes, I know. That means that a whole bunch of wannabe kinksters with fantasies bigger than their pain tolerance will be flooding into kink clubs all over the country.
But guys, buried inside of all of that rough are some seriously large diamonds. So let’d all take some deep breaths and look on the bright side. (more…)
Here are some quick answers from to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions have been paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details. (more…)
The XCBDSM team is working hard to expand this site and make more education resources available within the kink community.
Thunder in the Mountains is this weekend, and as I pack the last few things and get ready for the weekend, I thought I would give some tips to the first time convention-goer. On the Thunder website, there is also a list of “What To Expect” that was written specifically for Thunder, but in my experience, most of the list is applicable for any kink conference. (more…)
Here are some quick answers from to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions have been paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details. (more…)
Exciting news. Just as we are adding a new author here at XCBDSM, one of our own authors is contributing elsewhere as well.
The summer web series on Modern Poly features an article by Cross about raising children in poly households.
And a short excerpt:
As Polyamory begins to come out of the shadows and expose itself to the general public via increasingly open and “out” participants in the media, practical concerns about these relationships emerge. One common question is how these relationship dynamics affect children who are raised in polyamorous households.
We’ll Start With The Good News.
Research performed by Elisabeth Sheff over a 15 year period, and detailed in her book, The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families, suggests that children raised in poly households tend to show positive outcomes. These include, but are not limited to:
Read the rest at ModernPoly.com
Cross will have more articles featured on ModernPoly in the future. We will continue to post the links here when they’re available.
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