I love this. It is such a great snapshot of a D/s moment that had absolutely nothing to do with sex (well, not explicitly) or SM. Some of the very best moments in a D/s relationship happen outside fo the bedrooms and the dungeons. It’s these quite moments of love and intimacy and acceptance that really make it shine.
-Cross
Archive for June, 2014
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Monday Mailbag: Rape Play, BDSM Porn, and Collars
Posted: June 30, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Advice, Learn SomethingDo you have a question for the Monday Mailbag, ask it here.
1. Rape Play / TPE / CNC
Can you please tell me the difference between Rape Play vs Total Power Exchange vs Consensual Non-Consent. And also, what do you think of these things? Are they ok?
Advice for Novices: Red Folder
Posted: June 27, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Advice, Learn Something, Life LogI have reached a point, now, where I can speak about sex and BDSM with even vanilla people without much reservation or embarrassment. But it wasn’t always that way.
When we first started out, my partner and I would often have trouble saying allowed the things that we fantasized about. That’s a problem, because it keeps you from getting the things you want. So we devised a way to communicate with each other. And in the years since, we have shared this idea with others who have also been able to use it to help their relationships.
So here it is, the Red Folder. (more…)
TNG 7/3 Thursday Play Party
“ Happy Independence Day!” FETLIFE Event Posting Here
So, we keep a folder of stuff we would like to write about, and tend to have a build up of stuff that isn’t strictly about BDSM, but rather about culture or society at large. These things certainly relate back to our community, but when we brainstorm the structure of what would actually be written, that connection would likely be minimal.
For instance, there is a big thing right now about NYC allowing women to walk around topless in public if they want to. We think that is an awesome bit of progress for equal rights, and can also see connections to issues of rape culture and the general objectification of women and their bodies. We could write a lot about that.
And if forced, we could make that about BDSM somehow, but it wouldn’t feel natural.
So, since we’re getting a little more traffic than usual, now might be a good time to ask you all:
Should the topics on this website be restricted to things explicitly about BDSM? Would an occasional post about interesting things outside of kink upset anyone?
Here is a quick-click poll, but we would also LOVE to hear what you have to say about that in the comments.
900 unique visitors to the website today. That’s a new record. And it’s only 3:30pm. I wonder if we can break 1,000 by midnight.
Mailbag Monday – Young Kinksters, Switches, and Disrespectful Doms
Posted: June 23, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Advice, Learn SomethingWe’re up to 121 followers. Woohoo. Please be sure to share this post if you find it interesting or helpful.
Now, it’s Monday, so here are some quick answers to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions have been paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details. (more…)
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