Archive for August, 2014

UPDATE: This review was quoted and linked from the “More Than Two” blog HERE. Yay!

The short version is that I am 100% in love with this book and highly recommend PURCHASING IT HERE.

NEW! AudioBook Version Available Here


I began reading the book expecting it to be good. I expected to read a lot of things that I already knew, though perhaps articulated better than I had read before. I have read a lot of Veaux’s writing and I know that he knows the subject as well as anyone. I planned to highlight a few passages to quote in the review and say some nice things about it.

But I was wrong.  (more…)

“More Than Two” Review Coming Soon

Posted: August 21, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Reviews, Reviews (Book)

I just finished reading my advance copy of More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert, which will be released to the public on September 2nd. Click on the link above to pre-order.

I will be writing two separate reviews of the book. One for this site and one for but the quick and dirty reaction is that I am absolutely 100% in love with this book and foresee buying many copies to give out to people over the next several years. The book is absolutely incredible. I highly recommend pre-ordering the book so that you get it right away.

Art Thursday: “Yes, Sir. I Would Love To”

Posted: August 21, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Art

This week, I wanted to share something that I read a few weeks ago on Fetlife. I really enjoyed the presentation of a common phrase and the depth of meaning living behind it. You can find the writer at Her Blog or over on Tumblr. Enjoy.

Re-posted here with permission of the author. 


i would love to …

(trust) wear that dress for you today … grow my hair longer … leave the panties at home so we both can think about that all day until we’re together again … throw away that eyeshadow since you hate the color of it on me so much …

(care) pack your lunch every day so i know you’re eating healthy … ensure your schedule is free at that special time every weekend so you can enjoy your alone time … sit at your feet with your fingers in my hair while you read … refill your iced tea … give you a back rub when it hurts … and when it doesn’t … be your safe place to be yourself, no matter how that might look to anyone else … read the book you think i should because it will help me … ensure your office mates are remembered on birthdays and holidays … sew on that button that’s missing from your favorite shirt …

(serve) always have healthy food choices available because your health matters to me … carefully dust that shelf of silly knicknacks you have because each one is a memory from your mom and your grandma and your aunt from your childhood …

(honor) send you the daily report you request because i know it’s to help me … work on my weaknesses because i want to make you proud of me … say i’m sorry when i am wrong, and mean it … make you laugh … drop to my knees, now … strive to be what you need at every moment, because doing so is what i need too …

(cherish) meet your gaze from across the room at that party and know exactly what to do … never wear that color again … throw away my favorite comfy shirt because it does have 1,000 holes in it and i can get another comfy shirt that doesn’t … stop putting myself down, even as a joke … be forced to be serious when i go to humor to avoid that topic … surprise you with breakfast in bed … follow you because i know you’re going there for a reason that i might not be able to see … recognize that ceding to you frees me to be seen completely and deeply for the first time in my life and wanted and accepted anyhow …


yes, Sir. i would love to.

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The following article was originally posted to by Andrew Love, of and is republished here with the permission of the author. 

The Myth of “Protection”
by Andrew Love

I get it! You’re brand new, coming into a kinky world filled with all sorts of people willing to come up to you and they bluntly ask, “Can I do dirty stuff to you?” It can all feel very overwhelming.

I would love to tell you that everyone in the community is safe, that no one on FetLife would ever do you harm, that we manage to filter out every unsavory character. This is not true, they exist and often times the people that will do you harm actually mean the best for you. (more…)

Art Thursday: Nancy Peach’s Oil Paintings

Posted: August 7, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Art


For this weeks, Art Thursday, I wanted to reach out and look for some more traditional art, so I asked around looking for artists who working with paint and canvass, and several people recommended Nancy Peach, and I can certainly see why.

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Fetlife Group: 50 Shades Welcoming Committee

Posted: August 3, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Current Events, Resources

Check out and join the group here (Membership profile required)

Hi everyone. You may remember this post I wrote the day the trailer for 50 Shades of Grey came out.

I truly believe that this film can be a benefit to our community if we handle it properly. The Fetlife group is a perfect manifestation of what I called for in that post. So it would be pretty shitty of me to not follow through and actually help. So I have volunteered to be moderator for the group and help keep it productive.

But beyond the benefit to the community, I am primarily interested in safety and education.

(I know you’ve all heard this from me lots of times, but…)

When I first started playing with BDSM, all of the events in my area were 21+ and Fetlife didn’t exist, yet. So I got most of my ideas from porn, which it turns out is not a great source of technical guidance. If I hadn’t been excluded from the clubs because of my age, someone might have steered me to better information and some injuries may have been prevented.

I see the same opportunity here. As many have pointed out, ad nausea, these books are a very poor example of BDSM and not something that anyone should emulate, so it is our job to give them something better. But we can’t do that if we shun those who happen find their way into BDSM via a shitty book.

My priorities mirror the rules of the group:
1) Don’t be a dick
2) I don’t have time to referee so I’ll ban by default if you are a dick
3) Remember that you were new and clueless at some point. Treat people with respect. Treat them the way you would have liked to be treated when you found kink.

We need to be understanding and accommodating of ignorance. We need to show them the best possible face of who we are and what we stand for. By doing so, we increase the chances that they will listen to what we have to say and be safer in their own play, even if they never come to an event.

I am trying to do my part to further that goal. I hope you all will spread the word and get the best of our community, both local and international, to join the group and help out. And then, if you hear a friend or random person talking about 50 Shades, you might point them in the direction of that group to ask their questions and get some good answers.