Our New Friends

Posted: August 10, 2016 by Isaac Cross in Reviews, Reviews (Product)


I am proud to announce that XCBDSM has partnered with our FAVORITE sex toy brand, Tantus!!!


In addition to being able to offer our readers 15% off of all products on their site (including the Rumble, which happens to be the best vibrator, ever), they will also be sending us their products from time to time so that we can give you real, honest reviews so you can pick out the toy that is best for YOU.


Using the code also helps to support us and the work we do, since Tantus will send us a portion of every sale.

So while we get started on our first review, feel free to go peruse the site and remember to use the discount code, “XCBDSM”, for 15% off, site-wide.

Kink Bundle


Update to QR Resource

Posted: August 10, 2016 by Isaac Cross in Uncategorized

LIMITSWe’ve updated the negotiation quick-reference guide with an image that you can feel free to share around if you like.

We’ve been using the negotiation mnemonic in class for the last couple of years and people keep asking us for something they can save and share, so we finally got around to making one. Enjoy!

Negotiation Guide – Quick Reference

New Record and Thank You

Posted: August 1, 2016 by Isaac Cross in Uncategorized

July was a new record for pageviews and I can’t thank you all enough, especially those who post links to your own websites or social media.

Thanks to our increasing readership, the revenue from the advertising has also been increasing and I think that we can finally afford some of the major renovations to the site that I have been wanting to make for a while now.

Thank you for the ongoing support!!!

PS – I’ll be in Salt Lake City for Rocky Mountain Rebellion and Columbus for COPE later this year. If you are in either of those cities and would like more information, send me an email at XCBDSM@gmail.com

The Error of Silence

Posted: June 2, 2016 by Isaac Cross in About Me, Advice, Learn Something, Life Log

For-your-own-good-1024x1024 (1)For those of us to the left of the slash (dominant, top, etc), we often make decisions for the good of our partners without telling them. Even with the best of intentions, these decisions often have the opposite effect if we fail to communicate.  Read the rest of this entry »

Looking for a play partner ?

By gypsycowgirl (FetLife)

* Re-posted with permission

I want to briefly touch on something I see posted on Fet all the time. People looking for play partners: a top, a bottom, a Dom, a sub, a casual thing, maybe a long term relationship.

As a woman on Fet my profile attracts a lot of people with foot fetishes, it’s just the nature of the game (and my pictures). I frequently have people contact me looking for someone willing to indulge in foot fetish play. I don’t particularly have a foot fetish, (mine is actually stockings and heels) but my profile attract people who do and that’s okay.

I get that people are looking to fulfill their particular fetish, but how about doing some basic investigating first. If someone actually took the time to get to know me, they would find out I don’t really think my feet are pretty. Do they still look great in fishnet stockings and a stiletto; you can be the judge. Believe it or not, the thought of surrendering my feet to someone is much harder to wrap my brain around than the thought of actually having sex with someone….. Weird, I know. Read the rest of this entry »

Breaking Up With Vanilla Sex

Posted: April 13, 2016 by Jordyn in Uncategorized

Last night after browsing loads of tumblr porn, I had an epiphany. Y’know. Like you do after looking at porn. But the epiphany needs a little back story.

For…a while now, I’ve been feeling a big shift in my sexual desire. In that I’ve had relatively little of it. Sort of. I’ve had plenty of urging to orgasm, to masturbate and play with toys and look at porn. But I haven’t had a ton of desire to mesh squishy body parts with people…. Sort of. If asked, I would still say yes, I’d have sex everyday if I could. If someone brings up the idea, I’m often into it. But there’s been something about it I’ve never felt before. A sense of work. Perhaps even… boredom? (I apologize now for ellipsis abuse. Just relax and let it happen). It’s this, “been here, done that, got the t shirt, the frustration, the giggles, the orgasms, the sexy feels and happy, sweaty exertions”. I have done it in a house, I have done it with a mouse, I have done it in a box, I have done it with a fox. Boys, girls, and every flavor in between and around the two.

It’s not to say that I’ve disliked the sex. It’s been alright. Having sex with someone is a helluva lot better than doing laundry. I used to say that even bad sex was still better than none, or was still a fun way to spend an evening. But… I’m not so sure anymore. Read the rest of this entry »

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