Archive for September, 2014

Mailbag Monday – Poly-Flexible?

Posted: September 22, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Advice, Learn Something

Mailbag Monday is all about answers to questions that I have received.

Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.

The questions are often paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details or to conceal identity. (more…)

Kink as a Sexual Orientation

Posted: September 14, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Learn Something, Philosophy, Reviews, Reviews (Web)

In lieu of “Mailbag Monday” today, I wanted to give an extended answer to a question posed in a discussion group that I am a member of.

Last month, Slate published an article by Jillian Keenan titled “Is Kink a Sexual Orientation?” There has since been an ongoing debate about this question. As it happens, I began to identify kink as MY orientation just a month or so before the article came out. So when someone asked the question in this discussion of what we all thought of the article, I was happy to answer from my own experience. Here is that answer, edited only slightly.

dot heels (more…)

DENVER: Don’t Forget To Buy Your Tickets!

Posted: September 13, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Events, Learn Something



Fetlife Event Page — > Tell Everyone You’re Goin’

Purchase Ticket Here –> Because we are providing food, and because we expect this event to sell out, You must either purchase in advance or call Winnie at 720-233-4703 to register.

There will be coffee/juice/bagels in the morning and lunch will be provided.

If you have questions or would like to receive a couple of emails to remind you when the class gets closer, just send me a message at

Effective and Affectionate Dominance – Full Day Intensive by Cross (more…)

Exciting news! has published my review of “More Than Two” by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert. This is my second article featured on that site. Hooray!

Check it out HERE.

Doms & Tops Get Scared, Too

Posted: September 2, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Learn Something, Philosophy

One of our earliest posts on this site was one examining the emotion of fear.

Recently, I have been thinking a lot about this thing called fear. Specifically, I have been thinking about the ways that the notion of fear within the context of kink is often linked only to the right-of-slash, s-type persons. But as someone who has had their share of dominant and topping experiences, I have come to realize that fear is an ever-present challenge that cannot be ignored and should be respected, even by the top.

7340352522_c1b0a8b0f9_z (more…)