Archive for April, 2017

On “Not Being Enough”

Posted: April 26, 2017 by Isaac Cross in Advice, Learn Something, Philosophy

I’ve always loved the idea of poly. I love that what you can’t give your partner another can and visa versa. I don’t believe that, that level of love can only exist for one person. That being said, I obviously haven’t gone poly yet for a reason. Like everyone, I have insecurities and I would say my biggest insecurity comes from not being good enough, be it sexually, emotionally, intimately, etc. Now, I know you don’t have to be the best to be good enough, but I think even with that knowledge I still have that mindset. I have to be so good that my partner does not desire anything I give them from any other person and I have to be good at everything, so there in nothing to seek in another person. What do i do?

I see this question a lot, or something like it, from folks new to poly and struggling with the emotions that brings. Mainstream culture teaches us that co-dependence is virtuous and that one person should be everything to their partners. So when a partner wants more than just you, it can feel like you are inadequate as a partner. But society’s emphasis on co-dependence is misguided.

The short answer is that you will be much happier (poly or not) if you recognize that you can be “enough” without being everything to them. (more…)

New Silicone Products at Stockroom

Posted: April 21, 2017 by Isaac Cross in Reviews, Reviews (Product)

Ever since we got our silicone paddle from Tantus (which you should totally buy, btw), we have been waiting for other toys to follow suit.

The folks at Stockroom have answered that call with a new line of products made from food-grade silicone.

They have wrist/ankle cuffs, a collar, and three kinds of gags.

We haven’t had a chance to test-drive any of it yet, but we’re very excited to see the release.


Posted: April 4, 2017 by Isaac Cross in Reviews, Reviews (Web)

Every time I see one of these sites pop up, I always click over so that I can figure out the scam and let everyone else know. So when came to my attention, I went and signed up.

And here’s the surprise, apart from the somewhat obtrusive ads for the products of the person who created the site, I actually think it’s good. (more…)