Archive for the ‘Uncategorized’ Category

500,000 Views!

Posted: May 22, 2017 by Isaac Cross in Uncategorized

Earlier today, we passed 500,000 page views. Thanks for all the continued support and to our fantastic writers and guest authors that make this page great. 

Emailing Me

Posted: February 6, 2017 by Isaac Cross in Uncategorized

For whatever reason, the email I have set up for this website is being bad these last few weeks.

Please use XCBDSM@gmail.com until I can get Cross@XCBDSM.com back up and running.

Is this your first time?

Posted: October 21, 2016 by Jordyn in Uncategorized

My first time skiing: I fell down (a lot).

First time snowboarding: I fell down. A lot.

First time cooking: I made a grape and black olive salad… Thing. It was beyond awful. My next couple attempts weren’t great either (inedibly salty falafel).

First time I picked up a violin for school: I sucked. A lot. It was also terrible.

First time I masturbated with a toy: It was super scary and I wasn’t able to get inside myself. (more…)

Update to QR Resource

Posted: August 10, 2016 by Isaac Cross in Uncategorized

LIMITSWe’ve updated the negotiation quick-reference guide with an image that you can feel free to share around if you like.

We’ve been using the negotiation mnemonic in class for the last couple of years and people keep asking us for something they can save and share, so we finally got around to making one. Enjoy!

Negotiation Guide – Quick Reference

New Record and Thank You

Posted: August 1, 2016 by Isaac Cross in Uncategorized

July was a new record for pageviews and I can’t thank you all enough, especially those who post links to your own websites or social media.

Thanks to our increasing readership, the revenue from the advertising has also been increasing and I think that we can finally afford some of the major renovations to the site that I have been wanting to make for a while now.

Thank you for the ongoing support!!!

PS – I’ll be in Salt Lake City for Rocky Mountain Rebellion and Columbus for COPE later this year. If you are in either of those cities and would like more information, send me an email at XCBDSM@gmail.com

Breaking Up With Vanilla Sex

Posted: April 13, 2016 by Jordyn in Uncategorized

Last night after browsing loads of tumblr porn, I had an epiphany. Y’know. Like you do after looking at porn. But the epiphany needs a little back story.

For…a while now, I’ve been feeling a big shift in my sexual desire. In that I’ve had relatively little of it. Sort of. I’ve had plenty of urging to orgasm, to masturbate and play with toys and look at porn. But I haven’t had a ton of desire to mesh squishy body parts with people…. Sort of. If asked, I would still say yes, I’d have sex everyday if I could. If someone brings up the idea, I’m often into it. But there’s been something about it I’ve never felt before. A sense of work. Perhaps even… boredom? (I apologize now for ellipsis abuse. Just relax and let it happen). It’s this, “been here, done that, got the t shirt, the frustration, the giggles, the orgasms, the sexy feels and happy, sweaty exertions”. I have done it in a house, I have done it with a mouse, I have done it in a box, I have done it with a fox. Boys, girls, and every flavor in between and around the two.

It’s not to say that I’ve disliked the sex. It’s been alright. Having sex with someone is a helluva lot better than doing laundry. I used to say that even bad sex was still better than none, or was still a fun way to spend an evening. But… I’m not so sure anymore. (more…)

Your “Protector” Is Hurting You

Posted: December 28, 2015 by Isaac Cross in Uncategorized

Note: I shouldn’t have to say this, but this is obviously just one person’s opinion. The following is based on my observations of the community over the last decade. If it doesn’t match your opinion or your perspective, that is totally ok. I am happy to discuss and even debate in the comments, but non-constructive comments will absolutely be deleted without hesitation. This is a tricky subject and tends to bring out emotions in people. That’s fine, but if you make it personal, you’re gone.

X-Posted Here on Fetlife. I highly recommend checking out the fetlife post, as there is a long string of responses and conversation that I think is very valuable.

TL/DR: If you have a protector listed on your Fetlife profile, you should expect to be (rightfully) ignored by a large portion of the community, who wants nothing to do with you or your protector. You will find yourself struggling more than necessary to find a good partner, no matter how many personal ads you post or how nice you are at parties. In fact, many people will purposefully avoid you.

image20151228-2255-jcfgr7I am sorry if that sounds harsh or judgmental, but it is simply the truth as I have observed it. And I am FAR from being the only one who thinks so. (more…)