Cross on ModernPoly

Posted: July 3, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Advice, Learn Something
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Exciting news. Just as we are adding a new author here at XCBDSM, one of our own authors is contributing elsewhere as well.

The summer web series on Modern Poly features an article by Cross about raising children in poly households.

Here’s the link.

And a short excerpt:

As Polyamory begins to come out of the shadows and expose itself to the general public via increasingly open and “out” participants in the media, practical concerns about these relationships emerge. One common question is how these relationship dynamics affect children who are raised in polyamorous households.

We’ll Start With The Good News. 

Research performed by Elisabeth Sheff over a 15 year period, and detailed in her book, The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families, suggests that children raised in poly households tend to show positive outcomes. These include, but are not limited to:

  • Children have more individualized time with adults, which results in a stronger bond and a healthier parent-child relationship.
  • Children spend less time in day care because of the flexibility of having multiple caregivers at home. This has obvious and substantial benefits, not least of which is that day care is ridiculously expensive, so having to use it less or not at all means more resources available for other things like healthy food.
  • Greater diversity of talents and interests available from the adults help children appreciate and seek a wider variety of hobbies.”

Read the rest at

Cross will have more articles featured on ModernPoly in the future. We will continue to post the links here when they’re available.


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