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Below are a couple books that I have found useful and interesting.
For a full list of recommended reading, visit my Bookshelf Page.
Clicking on the images will take you to the Amazon product page.
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This book did so much more just add words to my existing knowledge and experience, as I had expected. This book taught me things. This book changed the way that I think about relationships. All relationships, not just poly. I have spent the last two days lost in thought, re-evaluating a lot of my own choices and beliefs. And that’s good. That’s what a great book like this should do.
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Combines Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training With Miss Abernathy in one deluxe volume.
Replete with updated resources and references, Erotic Slavehood will take its place among the basic BDSM reference manuals.
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Respected columnist and scene leader Rinella has carefully explored how BDSM relationships fit into real people's lives.
From that research, and his own two decades as an active leatherman, he has assembled this sensible, readable manual about how kinky relationships really work.
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Hey San Francisco people!
Check out the page for my San Francisco trip (December 6-11). All the links are complete now, so you can RSVP on Fetlife and buy your tickets.
I’ll be in town from Dec 4-14 and look forward to attending other parties, munches, and events during that time. If you know about something awesome that is happening, let me know.
I look forward to seeing all of you soon.
CLICK THE IMAGE TO PURCHASE TICKETS
Fetlife Event Page — > Tell Everyone You’re Goin’
Purchase Ticket Here –> Because we are providing food, and because we expect this event to sell out, You must either purchase in advance or call Winnie at 720-233-4703 to register.
There will be coffee/juice/bagels in the morning and lunch will be provided.
If you have questions or would like to receive a couple of emails to remind you when the class gets closer, just send me a message at Cross@XCBDSM.com
Effective and Affectionate Dominance – Full Day Intensive by Cross (more…)
FIND CLASS DESCRIPTIONS AND PURCHASE TICKETS HERE
Holy Mötley Crüe! This is going to be a crazy trip. I am super excited, but I can tell I am going to go through a case of Monster Energy, at least, during this visit. This is, by far, the most ambitious trip that I have done so far. Fortunately, I will have help.
OK, I will be in town from the morning of December 4th, through the morning of December 14th. Here is my agenda for the week, so far. The things in red are the things I am presenting.
Again, if any of you are in the Bay area and know of fun things to do, or want to have lunch or something, let me know (Cross@xcbdsm.com). Meeting and talking with local people is at least 60% of why I travel like this, so hit me up. (more…)
Just confirmed, I will be visiting San Francisco, CA this December to teach a series of classes. Possibly at multiple venues. I am most excited about a full-day intensive I will be presenting at the Citadel on the topic of “Effective and Affectionate Dominance”.
Any of you from that area can look for me from Dec 4-14. I plan to attend a ton of events while I am in town, from munches to parties. If you know of anything going on that week, be sure to let me know. I would also love the chance to meet up local folks for lunch or to do something that an out-of-town person like me might not think to do. Send me an email! (Cross@xcbdsm.com)
I will have a more detailed and descriptive announcement when all the details are finalized, but for now, I just wanted to give everyone out there a heads up that I am on my way!
Thunder in the Mountains has this really unique way of simultaneously reassuring me that I am on the right path while also altering that path in significant ways. It’s a really weird phenomenon that I have never been able to figure out.
Usually, I have gone into Thunder with control over my play. There is at least one person who, generally speaking, is at my command and who I can do things to when I want to. This time, with both of my partners indisposed, I found myself with a completely open dance card for the first time ever at a convention. I filled one spot about two weeks in advance, planning a piercing scene for Saturday evening, and had a couple more on the fly Friday evening. Oddly enough, I think the relaxed nature of those scenes and the fact that little, if anything, was planned in advance really helped to make them all better. There have been times in the past where scenes set up ahead of time ended up with a lot of pressure on them to be awesome, which made it even worse when some of them had to be called off part way through. (more…)
The XCBDSM team is working hard to expand this site and make more education resources available within the kink community.
Thunder in the Mountains is this weekend, and as I pack the last few things and get ready for the weekend, I thought I would give some tips to the first time convention-goer. On the Thunder website, there is also a list of “What To Expect” that was written specifically for Thunder, but in my experience, most of the list is applicable for any kink conference. (more…)
TNG 7/3 Thursday Play Party
“ Happy Independence Day!” FETLIFE Event Posting Here
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