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Shame Takes Lives

Posted: August 25, 2016 by Isaac Cross in About Me, Advice, Events, Learn Something, Life Log, Philosophy

That’s the title of the speech I will be giving at Rocky Mountain Rebellion this Saturday in Salt Lake City.

When I read that the theme of the event was “Rebelling Against Shame”, I realized there was only one topic I could possibly discuss.

I will post the full text of the speech the morning after. For now, here’s a short teaser.


In any given year, 1 in 4 adults in the US struggle with a mental health problem and only a small percentage of them will seek help. The good news is research tells us the frequency of these issues are lower within the kink community, but it also tells us that people who do experience problems are less likely to seek help, primarily because they fear their lifestyle will not be understood or respected.

In culturally isolated communities like ours, Shame literally takes lives.


Look for the full text of the speech Sunday morning, right here.

1 in 4 people will struggle with a mental health challenge in their lifetime. That means it’s likely someone you care about will be or has been impacted. Would you know what to look for, and how to help?

Become Mental Health First Aid certified, and join thousands of Coloradoans already part of the movement to increase mental health literacy and reduce stigma. Learn the signs of mental health challenges, how to respond, and how to connect those in crisis with support systems.

Find out more about the MHFA program and sign up to be notified of MHFA training in your area by CLICKING HERE.

Travel Update

Posted: February 13, 2016 by Isaac Cross in About Me, Events, Life Log

I haven’t posted updates in a while, but due to a change in job (yeah, I have a “normal” job), I will be travelling to teach again this year. Here’s some of the dates we have so far:

Feb 28 – March 7: ROME, ITALY!!!! That’s right, I am teaching internationally for the first time this year. March 4-6 I will be teaching four classes at the Rome BDSM Conference. It will be a new experience, since I will be teaching with a translator, but it should be a great time. I’ll be meeting up with a partner of mine who lives in Copenhagen (Denmark) and spending a few days messing around southern Europe before we hit the conference. It should be a blast.

April 8-10: Denver, CO. It’s my home town, but still. Colorado Leather Fest is that weekend. In addition to being there as a representative of ColoradoCAL, I will also be teaching a couple of classes.

April 28 – May 1: Ft. Lauderdale, FL. I will be teaching a couple classes in addition to being the Dungeon Monitor Coordinator for Beyond Leather.

July 7-10: Albany, NY. Weekend of Wickedness. This should be a fun one. It’s out in the wilderness and secluded so the whole event is clothing optional.


So that’s what I have on the horizon. If anyone else wants me, I have a very flexible schedule and low demands. Check out my class list here.

We’re Teaching in Denver Again in November

Posted: October 15, 2015 by Isaac Cross in Events, Resources

XCBDSM is pleased to team up with the Colorado Center for Alternative Lifestyles a two-day weekend intensive.

This weekend will offer over 12 hours of education, valuable to everyone involved with BDSM, regardless of role.

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XCBDSM is going to Kollege!

Posted: April 16, 2015 by Isaac Cross in Events

We just got confirmation that the XCBDSM team will be presenting at Kinky Kollege, a three day BDSM event in Chicago, Illinois.

Kinky Kollege – Chicago – October 16-18

Fetlife Event Page

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We will announce the class lineup as soon as we decide what will fit best with the event. We look forward to seeing everybody out there.


To receive the address and attend the event, you must RSVP at the event page here. We will contact you through Fetlife.

Proceeds Benefit the CAL Project

No fee is required to attend, however there is a suggested $20 per day donation to cover the cost of food, beverage, and transportation (the XCBDSM team is coming down from Denver).

If you can’t afford the donation, please come anyway.

Additional proceeds from the event will benefit the “Center for Alternative Lifestyles”, a non-profit support and advocacy organization for the kink, non-monogamy, and LGBTQ communities. Learn more at


Saturday night, May 2nd, is a play party night at VooDoo Leatherworks. The XCBDSM team will all be there, so come and hang out with us. Attendees of the intensive are offered a discounted rate on memberships so they can try out some of what they learn or share their own skills with others. Directions to the center and discount coupons will be available at the intensive.


For the first time ever, we are proud to offer the full set of top/dominant intensive workshops in a single weekend.

XCBDSM, The House of Debauchery, and VooDoo Leatherworks are teaming up to bring two full days of BDSM education for those on the left side of the slash: The D’s in D/s and the T’s in top/bottom.

Whatever you already know about these subjects, whether you are new to kink or have been around for a while, we guarantee that you will find plenty of new ideas and information to take away from this weekend. (more…)

Mark Your Calendars ~ Feb 7 Tops Intensive ~ Denver

Posted: December 26, 2014 by Isaac Cross in Events

Wanted to give you all a heads up about another full day intensive workshop that we will be offer in Denver on Saturday, February 7th. Mark your calendars. I’ll have all the relevant links posted once they’re ready.

Topping with Style and Confidence ~ A Full Day Intensive by XCBDSM

“Negotiating a Scene” will cover techniques and important tips for negotiating a scene. In this class, negotiation will consist of much more than a simply list of BDSM activities sorted into do’s and don’ts or likes and dislikes. The class address a number of aspects of negotiation often neglected by even experience BDSM players.

“Scene Communication and Connection” is an interactive discusses maintaining the balance between the exchange of energy and the exchange of information during BDSM scenes. We will overview effective communication, beginning with identifying and explaining your limits and continuing to methods of communicating before, during and after a scene takes place. We will also talk about how to establish and maintain the connection necessary to raise the intensity and pleasure of the experience for everyone.

“Mind Fucks, Terror, Predicaments, and Other Psychological S&M” will cover techniques, methodology, and motivations for psychological manipulation of a bottom, including Mind Fucks (strategic deception), Terror, or Predicaments. Playing with the brain can be fun, fulfilling, and exhilarating, but it is also dangerous. We’ll talk about managing risk and responding to problems.

“Subdrop and Aftercare” focuses on the phenomenon generally referred to as “subdrop” and methods of prevention and treatment. For the purposes of this class, subdrop will be defined as: A physical and/or emotional depression that can occur within hours or days after a particularly intense scene.