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Below are a couple books that I have found useful and interesting.
For a full list of recommended reading, visit my Bookshelf Page.
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This book did so much more just add words to my existing knowledge and experience, as I had expected. This book taught me things. This book changed the way that I think about relationships. All relationships, not just poly. I have spent the last two days lost in thought, re-evaluating a lot of my own choices and beliefs. And that’s good. That’s what a great book like this should do.
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Combines Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training With Miss Abernathy in one deluxe volume.
Replete with updated resources and references, Erotic Slavehood will take its place among the basic BDSM reference manuals.
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Respected columnist and scene leader Rinella has carefully explored how BDSM relationships fit into real people's lives.
From that research, and his own two decades as an active leatherman, he has assembled this sensible, readable manual about how kinky relationships really work.
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Mailbag Monday is all about answers to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions are often paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details or to conceal identity. Read the rest of this entry »
Mailbag Monday is all about answers to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions are often paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details or to conceal identity. Read the rest of this entry »
In lieu of “Mailbag Monday” today, I wanted to give an extended answer to a question posed in a discussion group that I am a member of.
Last month, Slate published an article by Jillian Keenan titled “Is Kink a Sexual Orientation?” There has since been an ongoing debate about this question. As it happens, I began to identify kink as MY orientation just a month or so before the article came out. So when someone asked the question in this discussion of what we all thought of the article, I was happy to answer from my own experience. Here is that answer, edited only slightly.
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Effective and Affectionate Dominance – Full Day Intensive by Cross Read the rest of this entry »
Exciting news!
ModernPoly.com has published my review of “More Than Two” by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert. This is my second article featured on that site. Hooray!
One of our earliest posts on this site was one examining the emotion of fear.
Recently, I have been thinking a lot about this thing called fear. Specifically, I have been thinking about the ways that the notion of fear within the context of kink is often linked only to the right-of-slash, s-type persons. But as someone who has had their share of dominant and topping experiences, I have come to realize that fear is an ever-present challenge that cannot be ignored and should be respected, even by the top.
UPDATE: This review was quoted and linked from the “More Than Two” blog HERE. Yay!
The short version is that I am 100% in love with this book and highly recommend PURCHASING IT HERE.
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I began reading the book expecting it to be good. I expected to read a lot of things that I already knew, though perhaps articulated better than I had read before. I have read a lot of Veaux’s writing and I know that he knows the subject as well as anyone. I planned to highlight a few passages to quote in the review and say some nice things about it.
But I was wrong. Read the rest of this entry »
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