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Below are a couple books that I have found useful and interesting.
For a full list of recommended reading, visit my Bookshelf Page.
Clicking on the images will take you to the Amazon product page.
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This book did so much more just add words to my existing knowledge and experience, as I had expected. This book taught me things. This book changed the way that I think about relationships. All relationships, not just poly. I have spent the last two days lost in thought, re-evaluating a lot of my own choices and beliefs. And that’s good. That’s what a great book like this should do.
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Combines Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training With Miss Abernathy in one deluxe volume.
Replete with updated resources and references, Erotic Slavehood will take its place among the basic BDSM reference manuals.
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Respected columnist and scene leader Rinella has carefully explored how BDSM relationships fit into real people's lives.
From that research, and his own two decades as an active leatherman, he has assembled this sensible, readable manual about how kinky relationships really work.
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We’re up to 121 followers. Woohoo. Please be sure to share this post if you find it interesting or helpful.
Now, it’s Monday, so here are some quick answers to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions have been paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details. (more…)
It’s Monday, so here are some quick answers from to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions have been paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details. (more…)
First of All, I want to go ahead a celebrate having over 100 followers.
(Don’t Play Drunk)
Now, since it’s Monday, here are some quick answers from to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions have been paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details. (more…)
Let’s try something new. Quick answers from to questions that I have received.
Or… In some cases, questions that someone asked in my general vicinity or somewhere on the internet. But I am answering them here, because that’s where I am.
The questions have been paraphrased or otherwise edited down to the essential details. (more…)
Last night, I went and experienced a live performance by an amazing artist, a violinist named Lindsay Stirling. If you are unfamiliar with her work, here are a few of my favorite pieces of hers, including several of her joint ventures with some of my other favorite artists, including Peter Hollens and Pentatonix.
Pure Stirling:
Crystalize
Elements
Zelda Medley
Shadows
Awesome Collaborations:
Shatter Me, featuring Lzzy Hale from Halestorm
Mission Impossible, featuring The Piano Guys
Radioactive, featuring Pentatonix
Star Wars Medley, featuring Peter Hollens
Ok, so now that I have adequately promoted the artist, it time for me to complain.
I was about 8 layers of people back from the stage, and yet for half of the performance, all I could see was this:
(Image Courtesy of rollingstone.com)
I will admit, I took about a dozen pictures during the concert. But a lot of these people, never dropped their arms. For the entire concert, all they paid attention to was whether they were getting a good shot, either in stills or recorded video. (more…)
So, a few of you may have noticed that CollarMe.com is gone. If you bother to read the blogs and comments, you will know that this is due to a long running business dispute between the site’s two co-founders.
The root of the problem seems to stem from the fact that one of the partners trusted her “friend” to do the honorable thing and did not have a formal agreement in place to protect her interests and assure that she was treated fairly.
Unfortunately, this happens all the time when friends or acquaintances go into business together. Even if everyone involved is acting in good faith, you all might have different ideas about what the best course of action is, and if you don’t have a written agreement in place, there are going to be serious issues.
And within the Kink community, people’s reluctance to do things “on the books” makes things much worse. (more…)
“I Don’t Use Safewords”
That statement probably upsets some people. There are a lot of safeword advocates in the BDSM community, but if you give me a few moments, I can explain to you why safewords are more trouble (and more risk) then they’re worth.
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