I wanted to write about this primarily because it is something that I have faced, myself. While I identify as a switch, my actual experiences, especially in public, have been 95-99% as a dominant/top. As a result, this is how people think of me most of the time. So on the rare occasion that I have the opportunity to serve someone I trust in public, I find that people react oddly to it. For a week or two after such an event, people speak to me differently or not at all, seemingly because their image of me has been disrupted or distorted. (more…)
Archive for the ‘Philosophy’ Category
Illusions and Images
Posted: January 3, 2011 by Isaac Cross in About Me, Learn Something, Philosophy0
Guest Perspective: Confessions of a Pegger
Posted: December 15, 2010 by Isaac Cross in Guest Posts, Learn Something, Philosophy, Reviews, Reviews (Web)Cross’s Note: Ruby writes some really great stuff over at Pegging Paradise and was gracious enough to let me borrow some of her work. Please visit her website and show some love.
Ruby Ryder is a writer of erotic pegging stories and a blog at PeggingParadise.com. She lives in Southern California and spends her time spreading the word about the singular joys of pegging and working to encourage a more sex-positive society.
Confessions of a Pegger
by Ruby Ryder, PeggingParadise.com
So what is it exactly that turns my crank when I don a strap-on and peg my guy?
My, my, my…so many things. (more…)
Service Roles, Part 2 of 3 – Theory
Posted: November 20, 2010 by Isaac Cross in Featured Posts, Learn Something, PhilosophyThis post will cover the theory behind “Defining and Refining Your Roles as a Submissive”
A note from the author: This has been getting a lot of extra traffic lately and some people have been misunderstanding the purpose. This information is pulled from the class that I teach on “Defining and Refining Your Role as a Submissive”. To understand the purpose for it, you really need to read Part 1 (linked above) and Part 3 (once it’s posted). If you have any questions, feel free to contact me at crossculturebdsm@gmail.com
Service Roles, Part 1 of 3 – Background
Posted: November 12, 2010 by Isaac Cross in Learn Something, PhilosophySo, this one friend of mine, who shall remain nameless, has been bugging me about putting this information up for a long time.
My class on “Defining and Refining Your Role as a Submissive” is my most popular one. It is also the subject on which I have devoted the most attention and work. I originally started the practice of categorizing submissive roles a few years back with my partner (and now wife) Rain. We began to analyse the different roles she plays as a submissive and why those different roles are appealing to her. We noticed that a few simple indicators worked to predict which role she would be most comfortable in at any given time and helped us to actually put names to them and refine them to a point where we both have a far better understanding of how to act within the framework of each different persona. (more…)
Examining Emotions: Gun Play
Posted: October 25, 2010 by Isaac Cross in Advice, Learn Something, Philosophy
Image from: http://la-mosca-cojonera.blogspot.com
Recently, there was a massive discussion in one of the forums that I follow regarding gun play. Specifically, the discussion began with a person asserting that gun play should never be taught at public BDSM events because “it can never be safe.” (Check out the comments for an example of this type of person)
Upon further examination, it is clear that we, as a society, have worked so hard to scare people about the dangers of guns that we forget that they CAN be handled safely and that, without bullets, a gun is just a hunk of metal, no more dangerous than a steel pipe.
Review: The Veaux Non-Monogamy Map
Posted: October 24, 2010 by Isaac Cross in Learn Something, Philosophy, Resources, Reviews, Reviews (Web)
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Hang on tight, kids. This is a long post.
Recently, blogger Franklin Veaux created a “Map of Non-Monogamy” which has been circulating around the internet and gaining popularity. Personally, I like it. Visual representations of complex concepts are always helpful. But that said, I do have some criticisms, and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
Finding Leather
Posted: September 28, 2010 by Isaac Cross in About Me, Featured Posts, Learn Something, PhilosophyWithin the Leather/BDSM culture, there is a tradition that dates back to at least 1965. While it took different forms in different parts of the country, there has been some form of documentation found to support the existence of this tradition in almost every major city where a Leather sub-culture existed.
The tradition basically states that, with the exception of boots and belts, you are not permitted to wear leather unless it has been given to you by someone more experienced. The leather is usually given after you have “earned” it through some sort of milestone in your development, such as a particularly challenging scene or the mastery of a particular skill.
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