Edit: This review applies to xxxcupid.com, xxxmatch.com, and sexsearch.com They are nearly identical sites run by the same parent company.
|Online Emissary™ Feature. socialsex.com may, at its discretion, cause or allow You to be contacted by one or more Online Emissaries as a part of socialsex.com’s Online Emissary™ feature.|
|14.1 An Online Emissary™ may be a real person, such as another socialsex.com Member, a digital actor, an avatar or a synthespian (e.g. a computer generated “person” or “character”). Online Emissaries may be employed by socialsex.com or a third party to enhance Your online experience. For example, an Online Emissary™ may provide an electronic introduction to new or existing socialsex.com features or functionality.|
|14.2 Online Emissaries may also provide to You, or enable You to receive, digital introductions to all Members. Online Emissaries may also be employed to enhance online relationships, encourage active participation in socialsex.com or discourage inappropriate behavior|
|14.3 An Online Emissary™ may be a current or past socialsex.com Member, an independent contractor, a digital creation, You or a digital representation of You.|
Apparently these companies have had enough complaints about fake people that they now include a section notifying you that they may use “online emisaries” to “enhance you experience”.
Translation: Make you think you are actually getting somewhere with their service and continue to pay for nothing.
And just for funsies, I signed up for an account and when I clicked the validation link in my email, gues where it took me…
How did I not see that coming? Oh wait, I did.
So, one of my favorite free porn websites is xvideos.com
I have found lots of great ideas for scenes from watching some of the creative work that has been posted there. Recently, they started promoting a side project called xxxcupid.
So, I went ahead and created a profile to test out the limitations of this “free” dating site.
As with most, there is absolutely nothing free about it. It’s even worse than Bondage.com. You cannot even read messages that other people have sent you without cracking your wallet open. I had barely had my profile up for an hour before I received a request to meet in person. Of course, since I hadn’t paid, I could not see anything more than the screen name and picture of the person who sent it. Soon after, I got a message, a friend request, and another meet-up request. I was pretty suspicious that any of this was genuine, but I thought I’d better check it out for the bennefit of my readers.
So I paid the $2 for a three day trial and went exploring the new-found features of the site.
The first thing that you should know is that this site, like many others like it, share a database of members with the other sites they operate to make it look bigger than it is. xxxcupid.com has the exact same members as xxxmatch.com and sexsearch.com. What’s more, almost all of the member content you can access, such as videos, chat rooms, etc. are also mirrored across all of the sites. So when you go into one of the rooms, you are actually talking to members of all three sites.
Even the paid version is pretty underwhelming. All of your profile updates, pictures uploads and even sent messages are delayed waiting for the approval of the site personnel. If you do anything to reduce your dependence on the site’s infrastructure, it is denied. Don’t post an email address or other contact info, and don’t send your contact info in an email either (not sure how you are supposed to make arrangements with someone). In fact, anything that looks like you are trying to make a real life connection with anyone is censored out.
I have continued to get random contact from pretty girls supposedly in my area, but if I attempt to return contact, all they wanna do is talk endlessly, thereby encouraging me to maintain my membership with the site. And many of these pretty girls seem to use the same type of language and use similar subject lines, almost as if they have been coached by a common source.
The most disappointing thing is that there is no way to designate or search for an interest in kink, which makes the whole site rather useless to people like me who aren’t interested in having to convert nillas.
So, the short version is, avoid the site. It’s not worth it. Even collarme.com is better, and that’s saying something.
UPDATE 8/9/11: Girls beware! This site will use your photos to advertise the website and make money. Stay away! (See comments)
UPDATE 9/1/10: After another 24 hours, I am convinced that the website employs women (or at least people using female pictures) to send regular messages, friend requests, and other things to members in order to keep them paying. The messages I’m getting are too specific to be bots, but too vague to be actual interest.
UPDATE 9/2/10: And now the final nail in this site’s coffin as far as I am concerned. Today, I started receiving spam through the site’s messaging system. I received an identical message from three different users. It was one of these “I have a lot of money but still somehow need you to sneak it into America for me, and all I need is your social security number and bank account number.” One might have been forgivable, but three in the space of a few hours means even my free account on the site will be closed very soon.
UPDATE 9/6/10: If you ever turn over you credit card number to them, be prepared to fight with them to cancel your account and probably have to get your bank involved. It took me many angry phone calls to resolve it all. Stay away from this site! But if you have fallen victim to the site and you need to cancel your account, follow these directions:
1. Log in to the site
2. Click on “Account Options Main” under the “Account Options banner tab
3. Click on “Customer Service” in the “Help Desk” box
4. In the drop-down list, select “Billing Information”
5. Click on the company that is handling your billing and follow the directions from there
-If you aren’t sure which company is doing your billing, there is a help link right below the company list.
6. After you have completed the cancellation, be sure to watch your bank closely. They will probably charge you again anyway.
7. When this happens, follow steps 1-3 and scroll to the bottom of the page where there is a very small text link that will allow you to contact customer service directly.
THERE IS NOTHING GOOD I CAN SAY ABOUT MY THREE DAYS ON XXXCUPID.COM
100% Negative – All Thumbs Down – Zero Stars